What to do if your partner’s premature

Wish your partner would last just a tiny bit longer in bed? He probably wishes that too. Premature ejaculation is something that many men will experience in their lives. But how do you know if it’s an ongoing issue and how should you talk to him about it? After all, you just want him to be happy and confident.

Read on to find out.

Does my partner suffer from premature ejaculation?

Whatever age your partner is, it’s likely he will have experienced ejaculating a little earlier than anticipated during foreplay or intercourse. Though it doesn’t necessarily mean he suffers from premature ejaculation.

However, if climaxing really quickly is becoming a pattern, this might be a sign of premature ejaculation. The clinical definition of premature ejaculation is when a man ejaculates sooner than desired, either before or shortly after penetration, leading to negative personal consequences, such as distress, frustration or even the avoidance of sexual intimacy.

What’s important to remember is that there isn’t much point putting a number or time on “how quickly is too quickly”. If it looks like your partner is losing control and confidence in the bedroom, it’s time to act.

MORE: Learn more about the causes of PE here.

What should I do if my partner’s premature?

If you think your partner is having issues with controlling his climax, it’s probably something they’re aware of too — so it’s time to get ready to have a “dick discussion”. If you’re feeling nervous, don’t be — we surveyed 2,000 men from across the world and found that most respondents would actually like their partner to talk about premature ejaculation with them. It’s just about getting the language and timing of the discussion right as it can be a sensitive topic.

So, how should you tackle it?

• Choose a time to discuss it when they’re calm and seem receptive
• Tell them you understand and that he’s not alone
• Use supportive words like ‘help’ and ‘together’ when discussing it
• Let them know their mental and physical health is a priority and you’re both in this together
• Listen to him and be prepared to discuss some possible solutions

By letting your partner know you’re there for them, longer lasting sex is something that you can both work at as a team. The process can bring you closer as a couple and trust us, you'll both be glad you had the conversation.

What premature ejaculation products and treatment are available?

There are many ways to control a climax, but not all are created equal. Things like numbing sprays and creams, prescription drugs or doubling up on condoms are all common treatment methods, however, these can cramp a man’s style or prove too expensive when compared with the results (or lack thereof). Some premature ejaculation treatments also have potentially negative side effects, such as numbing pleasure for him and for you or damaging your health (like when using drugs and alcohol to delay orgasm - not healthy and certainly not a sustainable long term solution).

Prolong is different. It’s a climax control training program that uses brain power and focused concentration rather than medication. You can use the vibrating Prolong device during foreplay or sex to really work on the issue together, or your partner can use it on his own during masturbation sessions. After six weeks, you’ll both be enjoying better sex.

MORE: Find out more about Prolong Control Training here.

We all have sexual needs, desires and fantasies. Mastering the art of climax control during intercourse allows for supernatural sex that keeps the spark in your relationship and boosts your partner’s confidence. It’s time to talk to your other half about coming too early, and it’s time you got the happy, mind-blowing sex life you both deserve.